Horse Wisdom: Unintended Rivalry

When I first rode Echo on trails and we would come to a creek or extra rocky terrain, I would attempt to direct Echo across the obstacles. I simply forgot to respect the expert I was with, and I was thoughtlessly and inadvertently sending the message that I did not trust the master. Echo reflected my anxiety and demonstrated his frustration. I am sure if Echo had his way, he would have dumped me then and there, and not let me ride again until I came to my senses and left him alone to do his job 1000% better than I could. Poor Echo had to wait until I figured it out—and I am eternally grateful he did. I finally realized the guy with his feet on the trail, years of practice, and a mind and body built to operate in our situation was probably better equipped to provide safe passage than I.

Truly great leaders manage real or perceived rivalry without letting their ego get bruised and losing relationships. They practice discernment when someone less qualified questions them.  While there are times to walk away when someone is annoying and truly disrespectful, great leaders have the discernment to show tolerance and understanding with sincere curiosity or naïve beginner’s flaws. They are able to have clear and honest communication to either get a relationship back on track or choose to part ways with kindness and respect.    

As a leader, how do you respond when you are questioned by someone less qualified? Do you recognize the difference between a troublemaker and a sincere but perhaps over enthusiastic student? If the latter, can you show the patience to build understanding, set boundaries, and establish mutual respect?  If so, you can build a team with the perfect mix of fresh perspective and seasoned wisdom for optimal results. 

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