Expectations and Capability

I spent the weekend learning the physical reasons horses do and don’t things. It is incredible how often we unintentionally demand movement that is painful or even undoable for the horse.  

As leaders, we often do the same with people.  We expect, ask, or even demand that others do things that are harmful to them or that they simply cannot do. When someone doesn't do what we want or expect, it pays to get curious and compassionate in finding out what the reason is. Horses and most people want to do what is asked of them. It is our responsibility to know what the receiver is capable of. 

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Leading Millenials--and Millenials Leading Us

According to a recent Forbes article, Millennials are the largest generation in the workforce. By 2020 they will make up half of the total workforce. Chances are if you don’t have a millennial manager now, you will be getting one soon.

When a baby boomer has a millennial for a boss, the number one challenge is the perception of lack of credibility, and possible resentment about “taking orders” from someone young enough to be their children.   Millennials who are fully qualified from a technical and business standpoint may lack the emotional intelligence, maturity and wisdom to respect the experience and knowledge to lead workers older than themselves.  What can we do? 

  • Treat each other with respect

  • Listen carefully, with empathy

  • Assume good intentions--value both experience and a fresh perspective. Timing is everything!

     

Charisma with Horsepower

In her book "The Charisma Myth" Olivia Fox Cabane shares ways to develop personal magnetism, which helps us influence and inspire others. Charismatic leaders consistently demonstrate three essential elements: presence, power and warmth. Horses can help us with all three. 

Presence means giving someone your undivided attention. Horses teach us to be present because if we stop being present, horses will take over leadership. 

Power, expressed by how others react to someone-is mostly through body language. Horses teach us the importance of congruency in our words and body. If our body language is saying something different than our words, they reflect the body language. 

 Warmth is characterized by goodwill and compassion towards others. Horses help us recognize personal space and  learn to demonstrate gratitude and compassion. They follow leaders who reflect warmth. 

Charisma is not something we do. It is something we are. In my experience, coaching clients to build increased presence, power and warmth is exponentially faster and easier with the help of horses. 

Want to develop your personal charisma? Let a horse coach help you unbridle your potential in a most unforgettable way! #coaching   #leadershipdevelopment